you do not need to train 4 hours a Day.What's real man for you? I don't consider for real man guys obsessed with their body, training every single day for 4 hours, counting every single calorie, get depressed if don't train 2 days, spading big amounts of cash for supplements and hormones. That's not real man. I know that kind, believe me.
This story is taking out of concept it probably comes from fact that normal man in his late 30s - 40s can't have visible abs and be muscular in same time without crazy training and diet regime, insane genetic and most likely steroids.
Most girls don't consider gym rats with crazy musculature to be sexy. They don't like dad's body too. If you ask girls what male body they like most of them would go for guys who train but not too much, don't have body fat under 10 %.
you do not need expensive supplements if you eat properly.
Hormones are not needed unless competing (yes it´s true folks)
women don´t care if you look big or small. size of the wallet counts.
Under 10% is competion. most with a good body will be 15-20%
a man in his 30s-40s is still young enough for visible abs. i have them at 52. stop the boozing .